By Healthweb | November 27, 2014
During this busy pre-Christmas period, the loss of self-awareness can occur so easily. The words of Anne Wilson Schaef (2004) are worth reflecting on.
“We women who do too much can see so many unfinished projects and so many things that need to be done that we are easily distracted. Getting dressed in the morning is not always an easy process. We take our shower, and then we see something that needs to be done. We get our underwear on, and then we see something that needs to be done. It is difficult to focus on the task at hand, and when we do, we see a million other little things that we’ll just tidy up before we get dressed.
Surely we have time to pick up the papers on the way to the kitchen to get our morning coffee. On the way back to the bathroom we can straighten the pillows on the couch. If we put the laundry in now, it can run while we do a quick vacuum.
Is it any wonder that we secretly see ourselves as incompetent? Even though we get a lot of little tasks done, we are so distractible that we jump from one task to another and never have a real feeling of completion. It is helpful to remember that we are cursed with busyness and distractibility. It is only in recognizing these behaviours as something we have learned and not truly who we are that we open ourselves to the possibility of something new.
Take a breath, slow down, and finish something.”
Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much, 2004, Harper Collins, New York